Taking it into the Other Room: Family Councils

After me and my husband got married, we had the opportunity to live with his parents for three months while we looked for a car and an apartment. During this three months, I was eagerly trying to absorb the good things that I saw my in-laws doing, things that I wanted to apply to my…

Speaking of Sex

When I was a teenager, I had a few defining experiences that helped me to shape my thoughts about sex. They also shaped how open I was to talking about it in the right circumstances. One, I had a youth leader who was very cautious about talking about sex. We had several lessons about chastity…

Perpetual Problems

In marriage, there will always be the solvable and unsolvable problems, even in happy and healthy marriages. John Gottman talks about these in chapter eight and nine of his book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. Speaking of ongoing or perpetual problems, Gottman says, “Marriages are successful to the degree that the problems you…

Why Marriage Between a Man and Woman?

It has been four years since the supreme court case of Obergefell vs Hodges in 2015, where the Supreme Court ruled that all states would be required to license and acknowledge all same-sex marriages. There are many reasons why this decision was upsetting to me, not the least of which was that it is the…